#TBT: That ‘You Wanna Date A Skater? Really. Really?’ Article From 2009


CENSORED Photo by John Roman

While going through some photos of 2008-2009ish debauchery with a friend, we reminisced about this unintentionally brilliant article. It lit up da scene and internet alike in 2009, long before going #viral held the weight it does today.

“You Wanna Date A Skater? Really. Really?” ran on the Miss Behave website in 2009. Miss Behave was like Mass Appeal, but for girls and their website no longer exists. Thanks to some careful archival work, we have unearthed this analysis of female frustration with the “skater” archetype, still found in any bar that serves Miller High Life across America.

This is an artifact indebted to its time. The majority of the research was clearly conducted via Lit Wednesdays circa 2008. Should there be an update of this masterpiece, it would inevitably be Brooklyn-based, as 95% of skateboarders unwilling to live inside a Chinatown shoebox have been priced out of Manhattan. This was before Dylan Reider became an international sex symbol, way before people could meticulously curate their #personalbrands via Tumblr and Instagram, and before #trending skater guyz had media outlets like Alex Olson’s talk show to publicly discuss an existence between the scene and the board. Needless to say, the ladies responsible for this article retired from the party (“I, like, don’t even go out anymore.”)

Ideally, there should be an annotated version of this piece that unpacks all of the allusions, but maybe we are better off leaving 2009 in 2009 :(


When man got tired of walking and created the wheel, I don’t think he was aware of what he was doing. Sure, motorcycles make you look cool, fixed gears give you street cred, and lazy fucks like me appreciate a car. But no one could have predicted the apocalypse that was created when some asshole put a piece of plywood on top of four of those Flinstonian contraptions. All of a sudden, every greasy-haired, pizza-faced outcast was getting attention from the hottest girl in school. With a skateboard in hand, you better believe you were gonna be in the closet for Seven Minutes of Heaven. Forty years later, or however long it’s been (like I would fucking know) skaters are still dominating the dating world. I’m trying to figure out what it is that’s making me and every girl I know swoon over the dirt bag who cant even hold your hand because its occupied by his precious board. Lets start with the facts:

1. If you bring a board to the bar, you know you’re not going home alone. Girls, and I should know, I’m guilty too. I get weak in the knees for a bad boy. How skaters got this reputation? I can’t be sure, but either way, they have it, and they are definitely getting blown because of it.

2. A boy with a board equals a boy with bros. Any skate rat comes in a pack. There’s at least seven of them who skate together by day, and do car bombs together by night. This means either more for you, or some fun to share with your friends. And of course, they are all repping “no homo” as they only speak in indecipherable slang, so you just have to be convinced that their male bonding is nothing but the good kind.

3. They dress well, and no matter how much they pretend not to care, they know it too. This one is simple. Every girl gets butterflies when Cher shows Ty the skater crew in her introduction to Bronson Alcott high. Clueless changed our lives, made us want the boy in the baggy pants and the knee length t-shirt.

The only down side to this is the shoelace belt which is “so homo” no matter how practical it may be.

So those are the facts. Now that we have that out of the way, Id like to pose some questions.

1. Is every hot boy a skater, or, are boys hot because they skate? This question is worse than the chicken and the egg question. Everyone has a different response to it, but I fear it’s the latter. I’m scared I’m taking home the ugliest guy in the bar just because he’s got his board underneath him. I’m manning up, it’s pathetic, but true. Guilty as charged.

2. How come every skater sucks in bed? Ask anyone, this theory has been tried and tested and unfortunately always proves true. Perhaps they’re too busy practicing their ollies or kickflips or whatever the fuck they’re called to spend time practicing other skills. Whatever it is, quite simply, whatever they’re good at “on the streets” isn’t helping them out in the bedroom.

3. This question is perhaps the most perplexing of them all: Why do we still let these over grown boys into our lives knowing everything we know about them? Honestly, why is it that every girl is reading Skateboarding for Dummies just so they can keep up a conversation because these boys don’t have shit-else to talk about. This is perhaps the one crime I have yet to committ. Do I know what a “back-front-side-flip” or whatever the fuck it’s called is? Nope. Am I getting laid less because of it? Yep.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m ok to go home alone because of my lack of this clearly important knowledge. I don’t need to wait around in Max Fish in hopes that at last call some doofus will get away from their “bros” long enough to take me home. I don’t need to have a Moz tattoo as a conversation starter (but my vast collection of vintage Smiths T’s doesn’t hurt). And mind you, I say all of this from no high horse. I’ve previously been lower than dirt in the skater-dater department. And when I can get some Supreme hat-wearing homeboy drunk enough to go home with me, you best believe I’m capitalizing on the opportunity. But this cultural phenomenon is taking over in ways I’m not prepared for.

Skaters are the new rock stars, the new celebrities. If I could name a pro skater I’d probably come up with some great analogy about how he’s gonna get laid more than Brad Pitt. And trust me, whomever this skater is that I should know the name of has a bigger ego than him too. And good for him, keep at it boys. Take advantage that you’ve somehow played a horrible trick on society and now have more women (or in my case, pathetic girls) than you can handle. Beatlemania died when it got bigger than Jesus. James Dean burned up in a car, and Leonardo Dicaprio never looked as good again as he did in Titanic.

So keep it up boys, because fads don’t last forever, especially when they’re highly dependent on your ability to stay steady on a fast moving piece of wood.


The comments were almost better than the article itself.

Example #1: I thought skaters were hot in high school, then realized most of them were egotistical idiots who dropped out of highschool with no jobs, shitty taste in girls and music. NYC needs to move on from skater worship. I don’t fucking get it. There’s nothing underground or edgy about it. It’s been popular for about a billion years. Max Fish sucks. Move on!!!

Example #2: i’ve only dated one skater. he was supposed to “stay” with me for 2 weeks and ended up living with me for 4 months. it was all sex, weed, Bowie, “Point Break” and an endless loop of seriously fascinating skate videos. he was and still is a total punk asshole but i adore him.
seeing through the “skater mystique” is easier than changing a tampon.

Example #3: It sounds like you had sex with Braydon. maybe you should go to the clinic.

Example #4: the sex sucks because you target skater BOYS instead of us mature skateboarding man trophies who know how to pleasure a woman and then go skate and ignore her for two weeks or so… unless she lives close to a skatespot/bar and/or has an amazing rack…. Which means we’ll be doin it often.

Example #5: i’m so over skaters. come on, dude, you’re not peter pan, you’re a 22 year old alcoholic failing out of state school.
dorks are the new skater boys. i’m all about those graphic designers, those tech-savvy filmmakers, those apple nerds…those are the best. throw on a pair of big glasses and you’ve got my heart.

The internet used to be sick.


  1. This shit is insane, somebody fuck this bitch before she goes rouge, that being said I’m gna bring my board to the bar and see if she’s right .

  2. 2014: i took a girl home from the bar, she had a longboard with her. she sucked in bed.

  3. Yo its mad fucked girls can now identify you as a skater without a board. Maybe I need to switch my style up? DISCLAIMER: I DO NOT CUFF

  4. Just a lil suggesty poo to whom it may concern but Can see that lambo Jackson would lite up vine w dat fire, pimp

  5. I spoke to Cassie about this and she says that the article was edited with a very heavy hand. In the original piece the narrator was ashamed and disgusted with herself, and laid no blame on the skate community. The powers that be at Missbehave changed the tone of it, shifting the negativity onto the skaters. This is very typical of these New York and LA “men are the new women” types. Not taking responsibility for their actions seems a part of their culture.

  6. I didn’t even realize 2k9 was the shit when it was happening. I was just trying to have a good time.

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